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May
27/08
Continuation of Significant Other
Last Updated on Tuesday, 27 May 2008 06:00
Written by Melinda
Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

It’s been some time since I added this particular section of significant others… so I think an update is due! My relationship with Tim is going great. Only… I am wanting something more from him and he is not willing to give it. I am talking about… A RING.

Now, we’ve known each other 10 months, dated that entire time. Yes perhaps its a bit presumptious, and I am jumping the gun. He does not want to get married again… probably NEVER since his divorce 2 yrs ago. He says that it takes a lot of commitment, and that relationships change after getting a ring, having the marriage ceremony, women change after the wedding cake (yeah they gain weight from all that icing! lol). But he’s just not wanting marriage. I, however, well I DO! HE DON’T.

So a few weeks ago I brought up the subject of a ring that I fell in love with. It’s heart shaped… has my name written all over it. He agreed that we could go look and I could show him. But when we got there, he stood off to the side, uninterested, and golly to the bypassers, they probably didn”t even know he was standing WITH me! I was so upset. It hurt my feelings because I knew he had no desire to buy a ring for me. I don’t want something that I had to suggest or force. I stood later in the Penneys dressing room upset, almost to the point of tears, because I felt like he didn’t want to make a commitment. I don’t want to be with someone who wants no commitment and doesn’t love me enough to make one. I could see myself five years down the road, still in the same relationship, yet unhappy because of no ring, no commitment. I want and need more. But he says that the ring isn’t what binds people together.

I was upset the rest of the evening. I even went to bed early by myself. I just felt like “What am I doing here? Wasting my time!” Maybe I’m a spoiled brat who gets my way… knows how to get my way… and I want what I want, when I want it! Maybe I am rushing things. But then again, maybe our wants/desires are so completely different. Now I feel that if I get the ring, it will only be because he knows I want it, not because his heart says “I love you, only you, and want you forever, for myself.” Is that an unfair or unrealistic thing for a girl to want? Am I living in a fairytale fantasy?

<sigh> Relationships are hard. Sometimes they are the best and make us feel good. Sometimes they hurt us deep.

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May
27/08
Start of Summer
Last Updated on Tuesday, 5 January 2010 07:54
Written by Melinda
Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

In many ways, this summer is going to be quite different. It’s not the first summer after my weight loss surgery, or weight loss, but it is the first summer after my abdominoplasty. I can now wear a bikini! Can you believe that? So, of course, I have been looking forward to this summer for a number of months.

I decided the other day that I would chronicle or journal my summer victories. These are small things to many people, but very huge steps for me. This weekend could be considered “the explosion”!

First, let me just say that summer has never been a fun time for me. Being overweight, I used to sweat profusely. I could not stand the outdoors and avoided it at all costs. I have never done much sunbathing (even back to Junior and High School). I didn’t like yard work, nor did I go swimming. I probably didn’t own a bathing suit for at least 10 years! I finally rode a bicycle last summer and didn’t really care all that much for it! The hot and humid weather just did me in. Late last summer though, I met Tim and he took me out on the boat. I’ve been looking forward to this all year, since then as a matter of fact.

All winter, I have been looking forward to when I could do summer types of things. I have wanted to ride horses, wear my new bikini, go swimming, lay out in the sun, and most frequently, wash the car! It has been so dirty, and I know that drive thru car washes just don’t do a great job. We live in an apartment and can’t wash vehicles there.

We spent the weekend at my former roommate’s house. Saturday we washed the car (I had on my bikini), went swimming, laid out in the sun, I went shopping for awhile too… but I didn’t sweat to death! I enjoyed the time I spent outdoors. Now I can’t wait until I go horseback riding and get to the lake.

I think being on the boat last year was the thing I have missed the most. My favorite thing to do is to pack a lunch and park over in a small cove area. We swim and lay out for awhile, eat our picnic lunch, and just enjoy the weather. I love to listen to the waves as they hit the boat and feel the warmth of the sun on my skin. Tim likes to cruise the lake, but being in the cove is my favorite.

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May
25/08
No Longer on Hold
Last Updated on Tuesday, 5 January 2010 07:56
Written by Melinda
Sunday, May 25th, 2008

Winter is so blah. Cold. Dreary. Gray. I hate putting life on “hold” or waiting to do all the things that I’ve wanted for so long. But quite frankly, everything I wanted to do takes place in the warm and sunny months! I mean, I didn’t really have an overwhelming desire to knit sweaters or scarves! No! Instead, I wanted to wear a bathing suit, go swimming, take the boat out on the lake, horseback riding…

Now that summer is here, I am no longer putting life on “hold”. This weekend was the beginning of my summer. And, I have taken the NSV (Non Scale Victories) theme from the gastric community and adapted it to MSV (My Summer Victories). I added this as a blog category and will be placing all of my fun doings/happenings in this category.

Here are a few photos of my weekend. Yesterday I put on my bikini, the 1st time I’ve worn one in public since Junior High School. Then I helped Tim wash the car! IN PUBLIC VIEW of the neighbors! I also enjoyed soaking up the sun and got a little more red added on to the redness from the tanning bed.

I went swimming. Now for me, this is a major big step because I freeze to death all the time. Last summer, I barely went swimming during the HOTTEST day of the year! The pool was still cold but I enjoyed it. I even laid out on the deck and let the sun absorb to my bones. It felt great.

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May
23/08
I'm Trying to be a "Hottie"
Last Updated on Friday, 23 May 2008 06:00
Written by Melinda
Friday, May 23rd, 2008

If you are or want to be a gastric bypass patient, get ready to freeze your tuckus off! I stay cold ALL the time! Tim will have the air conditioning on in the vehicle, and my teeth chatter! Of course, him being the gentleman that he is, I always get my way and he turns off the air, rolls up the windows or sometimes turns on the floor heater! He will be sweating profusely while I am sitting there like a bug snug in a rug, all comfy. We are on completely different ends of the temperature spectrum!

I finally found a place where I can feel heated to the very core of my bones: THE TANNING BED! I started three days ago in an effort to knock the white glare off my skin and prevent harsh sunburn this summer. I plan on spending a lot of time in the boat on the lake! Tim’s been after me – start on your tan now or else get a horrible nasty sunburn…

Each tanning bed has a fan which I turn OFF immediately. I love to feel the rays soaking deeply through my skin. It heats up my bones. The first night I was in for 7 minutes. Second night, 8 minutes. Last night I thought I’d get a little brave and went for 9 minutes. I wanted to holler out, “Please turn me on for another 9 minutes!” I got instantly sad when the lights shut off and it was dark, and COLD! What’s up with that? Can’t they just kind of ‘wean’ you off that light and heat? <sigh>

I stopped in at my usual place – GNC, looked around for some Fruit Punch New Whey liquid protein bullets and what happens… I start to feel a little itchy. UTTttt OOooo. You guessed it. In my diligent effort to get HOT HOT HOT, I burned myself! Ouch!

I learned a very valuable lesson. If you want to be a hottie, you might get burned cause you aren’t ready for the consequences. I guess that might apply to more areas than just tanning beds, too! LOL.

Have a wonderful day!

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